In Charlotte at least, we don't just show up at someone's doorstep very often. I think the general assumption is that people are busy and that if you want to talk to them, you ought to call and schedule a time. That's not the case here. Most people don't have phones and actually, I don't think they're that busy either. If you want to see someone, you ring their doorbell, and if they're home, they make time for you.
I can see positives and negatives on both sides. I happen to feel more comfortable with the Charlotte way, but maybe that's just because I have a lot more experience with it. Ingrained in my mind is the idea that my time is my own and very valuable. I have the right to order my day exactly how I want. There are definitely some red flags in there.
I'm left wondering how much I can and should adjust to the Peruvian way. This morning I knew that my options were continue what I was doing and see B later or stop what I was doing and feel frustrated about it. I'm glad that I didn't cave to people-pleasing in the moment, but I know that with some advance thinking and preparation, letting go of my schedule can be about loving people and not just winning their approval.